A friend in college once told me: "It's a wiggly world"
Yes it is.
Since the last time I blogged - I told my husband of 15 yrs and whom I dated 2 yrs before we got married... so 17 years... I told him I didn't want to be married any more.
Didn't think it would happen to me. I thought my life would be over if Dave and I were no longer married. I really and truly did not think this could happen.
My life is not over.
However it's weird. And change that big is scary. And I wish I had my Mom through all of this but I don't. I really, really, really wish for that.
I think I am fine. Everyone I talk to says I am processing things so well and I'm so healthy. And I think that yes, that is pretty accurate. I'm not completely losing my shit. Yes, there is sadness and of course mourning.
I think a lot of times I don't "get" to feel sad or mournful since I'm the one that asked for this. I kinda feel like I can't be sad and my voice should not be heard. I kinda feel like I should quietly disappear actually.
Tho' lately - I think now that the dust has settled and reality of what has happened is now in front of me - I've been feeling really weird. A bad feeling. So uncomfortable. I thought about it - sat with it - tried to define it. It isn't just the sad and honestly many days I'm not sad - I am really ok. It's something else.
I've decided I think it's because I'm scared.
I'm not sure why I'm scared? My house is the same and is now in my name. My job is the same and is in no danger. My friends are the same and everyone has been so incredibly supportive when for some reason I thought everyone would hate me. No one does. Dave and I remain friendly and think we will be friends when all this is said and done. I don't have children to worry about. I'm not really afraid to be on my own... or I don't think I am. I've always been pretty independent.
And yet I'm still scared. And it's a really icky feeling and I wish it would go away. It's unsettling. Like the other shoe is gonna drop... I'm gonna wake up to zombie plague... something... something is going to happen...
Only it already did.
This is my new normal and I can make it whatever I want to make it. That isn't a bad thing. It's just different. I suppose time will tell. Time heals all...